Friday, November 18, 2022

Travel Diary: Completely Solo in Ireland!

I've traveled solo before, but always before or after traveling with a group. This time I booked the tickets, hotels, and excursions all by myself and went without anyone else!

This wasn't my original plan; I had hoped to do a hiking trip over the Wicklow Way, but unfortunately, spending 4 chaotic months aboard a cruise ship made me well aware that hiking 92 miles wasn't the best idea. With only 4 weeks off and two family events at the beginning and end of those 4 weeks, I could only go to Ireland in a short span of time, and the various travel sites I checked either didn't fit into the time frame I had, or were ridiculously expensive. So I took the incentive and booked everything for myself.

How did I fare going out to the Emerald Isle by myself for 8 days? Read on to find out!

Day 1: Arrival in Dublin

With all the understaffed airports and constantly delayed flights, I chose to take my first day in Dublin without a car in case I was delayed myself. Unfortunately, this was my first airplane trip where I wound up suffering from air sickness, but thankfully I'd been smart enough to ask the flight attendant for a bag, which saved me a mess. Still feeling a little gross, I arrived in the late morning and went straight to my favorite hotel, the Roxford Lodge Hotel. As before, despite my being early, my room was ready! So I did the most important piece of business: I took a nap.

After freshening up after my nap, I was feeling much relieved and went off to Grafton Street to visit my favorite ice cream shop, Murphy's Ice Cream. For the next few hours, I wandered the streets and wound up passing Paddy Murphy of the Try Channel on YouTube, but I didn't stop to meet him because he looked like he was in a hurry (though I did briefly converse with him about this on Twitter). I instead stopped by the various tourist shops to see what day trips were now available in this post-Covid time. I wound up booking the Gravedigger Ghost Tour.

Before the tour, I stopped off at a pub in the Temple Bar District that I'd always meant to drop by but never had: The Vat House. I enjoyed a pint of Guinness and dinner and had a lovely chat with the owner, Promise, who also owned the adjoining hotel. He claimed to have the best pint of Guinness in town, and I am inclined to agree. I swung by Murphy's Ice Cream again, this time to actually enjoy some ice cream now that my tummy was feeling settled.

The Gravedigger Tour took its attendees to several so called "haunted" locations of Dublin, starting at Trinity College and going on to the old city wall, Kilmainham Gaol, and the Glasnevin Cemetery. It was an entertaining tour, and there was a young kiwi boy on the tour who was a huge fan of haunted houses and was having a blast. He made the tour all the more enjoyable. 

Mary's Bar & Hardware is a fun pub to check out!

Once the tour was over, I walked around Grafton Street again and had a pint of Orchard Thieves cider at Mary's Bar & Hardware before heading back to the hotel.

Differences from Previous Trips

Ireland reopened its borders earlier this year since shutting down for Covid, so there were due to be some changes to its tourism industry since then. Prior to Covid, you could go into any tourist shop and there would be dozens of smaller day tours you could book. Some of these tours would include trips to Connemara, The Powerscourt Estate, and Newgrange, to name a few. Unfortunately, the trips I named above were no longer available. There are still day trips available, but most of them are for the popular attractions, such as Blarney Castle, the Ring of Kerry, and Belfast in Northern Ireland. 

The trips that are no longer available in the tourist shops can still be booked online. These days it's best to book those day trips yourself if your heart is set on going anywhere specific.

Day 2: To Donegal via Cavan and Cuilcagh Mountain Park

Having driven through the Dublin city center only once, I opted to reserve a rental car in West Dublin that was closer to the motorway. After getting the keys, I headed for my next destination: Northern Ireland. There was a lesser known adventure in County Fermanagh, Northern Ireland, called the Cuilcagh Legnabrocky Boardwalk, or The Stairway to Heaven. 

Since it was a bit of a drive, I chose to stop over in Cavan Town for lunch. One of the things that most travelers don't know about Ireland is that most areas charge for parking throughout the week (with the exception of Roscommon town, which is very proud of the fact), so I paid for only 2 hours. I walked around the city for a bit before stopping in a pub for lunch. I had a delicious sandwich before continuing on to Northern Ireland.

I had asked my AirBNB host about crossing the border, and she informed me that the borders were open and I wouldn't need to stop. That was a bittersweet revelation, in that I wouldn't have to stop and wait, but I also missed out on another stamp in my passport. So, I crossed into the UK without a hitch and made it to Cuilcagh Mountain Park, just a few kilometers outside of Enniskillen.

The view from the parking lot

Google Maps had the direct route to the parking lot, but before I reached it I saw a sign for parking for £5, providing parking for both the park and the Marble Arch Caves, which I sadly couldn't visit. I pulled into that lot instead of the one instead of the Google directions, which was a half mile away and turned out to be a smaller parking lot that was free. And there were free spaces. From the parking lot I was in, I could clearly see the boardwalk trail I was about to take, and it looked more daunting than Instagram had depicted!

Yup...I'm gonna hike that sucker!

Despite having had a hearty lunch beforehand, it was about 26.5° C outside, which comes out to around 80° F. These are uncommon temperatures for both the Republic and Northern Ireland, but since I'm used to hiking in these temperatures, I didn't have an issue. However, the parking lot attendant had offered cold water bottles for £1-2, and I skipped on that, which I shouldn't have. I had 2 water bottles which should have kept me fine for about 8 miles, but as I made progress on my trip my tummy began to sour again, and I was drinking more to prevent dehydration.

So close...and yet so far

I finally made it to the base of the Stairway to Heaven, but I had gone through most of my water by then and was still feeling slightly nauseous. I spoke with a local woman who told me she hoped I would feel better and said to complete the trail if I felt well enough to do so. So I gave myself a few more minutes, then continued on. It was slow going, but I made it to the top! 

Leave no trace!

The return trip was mostly downhill so it wasn't as strenuous, and what little water I had left kept me hydrated enough until I reached my car.

Panoramic shot!

From there, I continued on to Enniskillen to get some petrol, and to look for anything resembling Gatorade. It turns out that over in Ireland, the term "electrolytes" isn't well-known, so I picked up a sports drink that looked like it would have the European equivalent of electrolytes. That did the trick for the rest of my journey back into the Republic and to Donegal town. 

Donegal Bay sunset

I stopped at the store first to pick up a few items, then went to McCafferty's Pub for dinner. They had an Polynesian inspired food truck, and it was ladies' night, so there was a 30% discount on specific drinks! After enjoying some fish and chips, that discounted cocktail was absolutely refreshing. Then it was on to the AirBNB where I met my lovely host and turned in for the night.

Interesting Observations

First things first, the heat. I'm from both California and Hawaii so I'm used to much warmer weather. To the locals, this heatwave was something they weren't used to. As I was hiking, I came across many men who were hiking without their shirts. 

I've done hiking in warmer weather before, but I haven't come across this many shirtless dudes in so short a time while on a trail. It definitely enhanced the experience.

The next thing I had noticed was how alone I was. I wasn't fearful, but definitely concerned about my recent bout of air sickness. This sort of stomach issue isn't something I deal with often, but when I have, I usually take time afterwards to recover. Without having recovered, and while dealing with jetlag, concerns over my health became very real since there would be no one I could immediately reach out to if something went wrong.

Since I finished the hike and was fine, I can say that if you're traveling solo and have health concerns, listen to your body. You may be able to push it far enough to complete your goal, but be very aware that if you don't listen, you're on your own.

Day 3: Donegal and the Slieve League

After a good night's rest and a hearty breakfast, I was feeling much better and more secure in my choice to hike the Slieve League, a cliff range along the Wild Atlantic Way that is said to rival the Cliffs of Moher. My AirBNB host had also provided several maps of County Donegal complete with other local attractions in the area, and had told me of a festival going on in Killybegs.

Morning in my AirBNB

The drive was about 45 minutes and gorgeous, as the Wild Atlantic Way is depicted. Now the hike I was doing had two starting points: one about 1.5 miles from the main parking lot, and that lot being at the base of the cliffs. I drove to the cliff base lot, paid €15 for parking, and got started. 

The first mile is a road that tour buses have access to, and at that point there are several trucks full of souvenirs, small entrees and snacks, ice cream, and even a non-alcoholic bar! Of all the hikes I've done throughout the world, this one catered to its clientele the best.

The Slieve League at high noon

It was still warm and dry, so the hiking conditions were ideal. The trail is mostly comprised of stone steps, so packing slip-resistant boots is an absolute must. No ifs, ands, or buts. You wanna do this hike, make sure you have top-quality slip-resistant shoes, or you're in for a horrible, possibly even dangerous, experience. 

So. Many. Rocks!

The views on this hike were exceptional! If you're an avid hiker like myself, this is one to put on your bucket list. The traffic is much more manageable than The Cliffs of Moher, and as the daylight changes from morning to afternoon, the cliffs themselves change color and become more vivid. The specific Slieve League hike goes to one of the smaller summits along the range, but if you want to do an alternate route that goes to the highest summit, check out the Pilgrim's Path, which is visible from the main trail.

What a view!

After completing this hike and enjoying a lobster roll and some ice cream, I made my way back to the car park. By this time, it was around 2:00pm, and I had a choice of two directions I could go: I could either go north to Malin Beg or Silver Strand Beach, one of the top beaches in County Donegal, or I could go southeast through Killybegs and go to Ballintra and visit Jamesey's Bar, another item on my bucket list. Considering the time of day, I didn't think I could do both. So I chose the latter: to go to Ballintra.

As I passed through Killybegs, I hit major traffic due to the festival, and though I considered stopping, it soon became evident that this festival was more for families so I drove past. I finally made it to Ballintra and went searching for Jamesie's Bar since all my internet searches had very little info to go on. Ballintra is a very small town so walking down the main street took less than 10 minutes, but I couldn't see Jamesie's.

Not much to see in Ballintra unfortunately

I found some locals outside a nearby bar and asked if it was still around, but they told me that the bar closed a few years ago. Back in 2018 when I had last been in the area, the lady I'd spoken with about the bar had told me it was open in Ballintra, so I don't know if the bar was a victim of Covid or not. I decided to move on since I'd already missed out on Malin Beg.

Relatively disappointed, I returned to Donegal and instead took a cruise of Donegal Bay on the Waterbus. It was a beautiful cruise, though I took a seat at the back of the boat and was subjected to the roar of the engine, so I couldn't hear the guide's voice over the speaker. Still, the cruise was enjoyable, and I got to see some seals while we were at sea!

Afterwards, I walked around Donegal Town, which is easy to do because the city center is, quite literally, a center. It's a giant roundabout, so traffic is usually nasty on the weekends. There is a castle here, but it was already closed by the time I got there so I couldn't check it out. After doing some exploring and shopping, I finally stopped for dinner at O'Donnell's Bar and Restaurant and ate an entire woodfire pizza. 

I deserved this.

Tomorrow I would spend on the road, so I decided to retire early so that I could allow my body the rest it would need for my upcoming adventures.

Why Ballintra?

If you've read my previous posts, you know that I've used 2 songs by the band Gaelic Storm to inspire side quests in Ireland: the Lisdoonvarna Matchmaking Festival and the hen parties in Galway. Once again, I was inspired by another of their songs: "Darcy's Donkey." 

For your listening pleasure

Some older websites confirmed that the song was entirely true in that there was a stuffed donkey butt hanging from the wall. Obviously, I had to see this for myself. Since the bar is tragically now closed, I can only hope that Darcy's ass is still around somewhere, stashed away in a safe place.

And truthfully, where else in the world could you claim that you saw a taxidermy donkey butt hanging up on the wall of a pub?

Day 4: Glencar, Sligo Town, Knock, Galway, and a Lightning Storm!

My next destination was Doolin, which was about 3 1/2 hours away from Donegal. I started early and went to Glencar, Counties Antrim and Sligo, to check out two waterfalls: the Devil's Chimney and Glencar Waterfall. According to Google Maps, there was less than a mile between these two attractions, and neither would take too long to check out.

Dry, but still majestic!

I started at the Devil's Chimney, but even from the car park I could tell that the waterfall was dry. I still ventured on since it was a small hike, and the views were definitely worth the trek. I'll have to come back here the next time it rains (which, ironically, happened later that night). Then I continued on to the Glencar Waterfall, which had an actual car park, toilets, a playground, and even a teahouse which wasn't open at the time I showed up. This waterfall had a good flow and had some short but nice walks around the area.

Can you hear this picture?

From there, I continued to Sligo Town. I hadn't heard much about Sligo so I wasn't sure what I would come across when I went there. What I found was a lovely town that had more of a refined air to it than any of the other towns and cities I'd visited thus far. Sligo is best associated with Irish poet William Butler Yeats and has a distinct emphasis on art, particularly poetry. The town is split by the Garavogue River, which allows for some lovely river walks. There are also historical ruins throughout the area, not the least of which is Sligo Abbey.

Very cool site to explore!

Being here on a Sunday, most attractions, including shops, are closed. However, this week in particular was National Heritage Week, and Sligo Abbey was open free of charge for everyone to enjoy. 

One half traditional, one half modern!

My next stop would be in Knock, a destination I was supposed to visit the last time I'd been in Ireland in 2018, but we had to skip it due to a visit by the pope, so we were diverted to Donegal that time. Knock is of religious significance to the Catholic Church because there were apparitions of the Virgin Mary and other saints sighted there (hence the reason why the pope visits). The shops there are full of Catholic memorabilia, and the Knock Shrine draws people from all across the globe to make pilgrimage to this holy site. The locals here were very friendly and quick to offer a prayer for you if it seems like you're in any sort of need for one.

Back in Galway!

By the time I reached Galway, an incoming thunderstorm was just starting to make landfall. Now if you want to stand out as a tourist in Ireland, whip out an umbrella. Having been here plenty of times, I just pulled my compact windbreaker from my purse and hiked up the hood and I was good to go. Galway is a lively city, especially at night (beware Saturday nights!), so the shops stay open later, and there's usually buskers out on every corner.

This is Ben Turner, IG is @benturner.music

I was expecting it to be slower since it was a Sunday night, but I was mistaken, so finding a place to eat alone the Whiskey Trail had a long wait time. I tried The King's Head, the oldest pub in the city, but their wait time was far longer, so I went to Sonny Molloy's instead. This being the Whiskey Trail, I opted to finish off my dinner with a shot of Connemara Peated Whiskey, since I'd never indulged in whiskey along that strip before. And, since they have a location here, I absolutely had to stop by Murphy's Ice Cream!

On tonight's menu....

By the time I was ready to leave, I still had about a 1 1/2 hour drive to Doolin, and it looked like the thunderstorm was passing since it hadn't been too strong thus far. Boy, was I wrong!

I was back on the Wild Atlantic Way, passing along the Burren, when the lightning began. I have never seen so much lightning in my life, and the way those multiple strikes lit up that barren landscape? Equal parts glorious and terrifying. Soon, it was pouring rain and gusting winds, and I was scared! The roads were completely soaked to the point that I was hydroplaning on these tiny streets. And then, I came across my kryptonite: Corkscrew Hill.

I cannot tell you how much I loathe this hill. I've driven it before, but the one time I did, I was going down. This time, in the midst of this monsoon-like thunderstorm, I would be going UP. I had no other way to go, so, with some epic Johann Sebastian Bach playing on the radio, I gunned it up that horrid winding road, dodging blustered bushes and other hydroplaning drivers. When someone is driving you, it's a beautiful drive, but when it's you all by your lonesome in an unusually dark night highlighted by uncharacteristically recurring lightning while being pelted by a downpour and unrelenting wind when your windows keep fogging up because Irish cars don't have air conditioning? I'm surprised my pants stayed dry!

At one point I considered pulling over in Lisdoonvarna since I was familiar with that town, but the GPS said that I only had 12 minutes left to my destination, and I didn't know if this storm would last all night, so I continued on. I made it to my next AirBNB safe and sound, and had even received a few messages from my host asking me if I would be there soon. She was happy to see I made it safe.

Under normal circumstances I would've gone straight to bed since it was about 10:30pm, but I was coming off of a severe adrenaline rush. And, of course, the worst of the storm passed about 15 minutes after I arrived.

The Storm

Seriously, I have never seen so much lightning in a storm in my life. There was some minor flooding and power outages, but thankfully not much damage was sustained throughout the country. 

It looked something like this

For the rest of the week, however, I spoke with several locals who remarked that in their entire lives they had never seen so much lightning. Had I not been driving, I would definitely have taken some videos of this event. It was absolutely incredible.

Day 5: The Cliffs of Moher and Doolin

The storm may have passed, but there was still rain in the morning. I was planning on doing the Cliffs of Moher hike, spanning 15 miles from Doolin and back, but that rain looked mighty unfriendly. I watched the weather for about an hour, then the rain let up. So I set out to do what I intended.

The northernmost part of the Cliffs not often seen

Before hitting the trailhead, I walked in the opposite direction to get some scenic shots of the northern span of the Cliffs. By the time I started my hike, I'd already done 1.5 miles and there had been no rainfall.

Walking my way down

I made my way down the trail, and soon enough it split from the marked trail to the unofficial trail along the cliff edge. Being the adventurer I am, I took the cliff edge route. This part continued on for about a mile before I reached Pat's View, which is where hikers can finally see the familiar sight of the Cliffs on the horizon. Before reaching that area, you can see some incredible rock formations that aren't always seen by tourists. There was also a horse along the trail who had somehow escaped his enclosure and was happily munching grass on the edge. Clearly he was used to doing this.

Om nom nom

The visitor numbers were fairly low once I reached Pat's View, but as I drew closer to the small memorial for all the victims of the cliff walk, the numbers increased. This was to be expected, because when I had come in 2018, this area was the furthest north I'd made on that trail. The trail had also undergone renovations since then, in that there was a trench-like trail between the fenced off property on the eastern side and on the western side it was just hills with small trails along the cliff edge. Now, there are rocks blocking off the western side, and flowers planted along the cliff edge to discourage overly-enthusiastic walkers from wandering too close.

And yet people still walk on the wrong side!

This made the trek narrower, and the closer I came to the O'Brien Tower and the North Platform, the more people were gathering. It caused major pedestrian traffic and slowdowns! Now, reaching the North Platform puts you just over halfway through the main cliff walk from Doolin to Hag's Head, and right down the hill from there is the Visitor's Center, where there are shops, food, and most importantly, toilets! On the whole, with the walk from Doolin to Hag's Head, being just about 7.5 miles, this hike is incredibly convenient based on the location of the Visitor's Center. I rested there about an hour before continuing on.

Only 1/4 in on my journey!

The southern part of this walk is the more popular of the two halves because it's more level than the northern part, and there are more parking lots. Hag's Head falls under the township of Liscannor, so not only is there parking for cars, but tour companies often drop by to allow their customers to roam about. This part also has more uninhibited views of the cliffs, so more tourists and photographers visit this section to snap the panoramic shots. 

The view we're used to seeing

Hag's Head and Moher Tower round out the end of this trail for this direction. The Tower is currently fenced off, with my guess being due to idiot tourists not showing proper respect for historical landmarks. 

None shall pass!

There's another trail that continues east, but this one goes to the main Liscannor parking lot, and the views aren't as impressive, so I opted not to go that way. After resting for a little bit, I turned north and went back the way I came. By that time, the sky was clearing up, so despite my intention of only taking pics going down, I had to stop a few times on the way back to capture that beautiful sky.

Special thanks to the hikers who took this pic for me

From there, the hike was uneventful. Breathtaking, yes, but now that I'd taken all the pictures I'd wanted, I just wanted to return to Doolin. After all, I'd just done 4 days in a row of hiking, and I was feeling various degrees of soreness! It was about 6pm when I finished, and the shops in Doolin were still open, so I did a little shopping before setting down at the Ivy Cottage for dinner.

Beautiful entrance!

Despite the fact that I was already in town, I desperately wanted a shower, and dusk didn't set until around 9:30pm. I went back to the AirBNB, which was less than a 10-minute walk, freshened up, and returned for ice cream and a trip to the pub. The local pub, Gus O'Connor's, was bustling that night, but since I was alone, I was seated fairly quickly.

The girl I was next to was from Wales and also traveling solo. We spent the rest of the time chatting about our various adventures, and every now and then our bartender would join in. He also mentioned that he'd been seeing a lot more women traveling by themselves these days, and I explained that among the Facebook groups I was involved in, when women asked the safest countries to go by themselves, and Ireland usually topped the suggestions. 

A band eventually began playing, and unfortunately I didn't get the name, but they played wonderfully, and the full pub was very loud with the applause. I was having such a good time that I didn't realize how late I'd stayed out! 

The Town of Doolin

Doolin is a tourist spot mostly renown for its cave and its closeness to both the Cliffs of Moher and The Burren. However, the entire town had shut down when Covid restrictions were put into place. My dad had been there back in March and none of the shops or restaurants had been open. Being here in August and seeing how busy business was, I wouldn't have guessed that! It's good to see how some of the smaller towns are able to recover so well.

Such a delightful little town!

Having started the cliff walk from both Doolin and Liscannor, I would recommend starting in Doolin if you're walked to do the entire 15 mile trail. The hike starts at an incline and becomes steeper until you start nearing the north platform. By the time you return this direction, the way back is easier. Also, Doolin is less than a half mile away from the trailhead, so you can stop for food fairly quickly. Liscannor is a lovely town as well, but the restaurants aren't as close to the trailhead.

I've found throughout my years of traveling that I prefer the smaller towns to the big cities because that's the way you can truly experience what life is like in these countries. Doolin embodies this, and definitely tops my list of favorite towns.

Day 6: Back to Dublin via Powerscourt

One of the excursions that topped my list to visit in Ireland was the Powerscourt Estate, Ireland's answer to Downtown Abbey. The estate is comprised of the main mansion, a distillery, hardware store, a golf course, hotel, and a waterfall down the road. This being a 3.5 hour drive from Doolin, I had to leave bright and early. The mansion and its waterfall have been featured in several films and TV shows, most notably ExcaliburElla Enchanted, The Tudors and Vikings

Quite the manor!

The estate was beautiful, though due to the recent heatwave (ended after that awful thunderstorm, bringing the temperatures back down to normal levels) the grounds haven't been as green as usual, though they were still beautiful. The back side of the house and gardens were notably featured in the film The Count of Monte Cristo and still look much the same. Throughout the grounds, you can also find a tower, a Japanese Garden, a massive lily pond, and a pet cemetery. 

The mansion has since been converted for tourist purposes. There is a café that features overpriced yet tasty items and several shops. The distillery features the Powerscourt brand of whiskey, where they provide tours and have a nice coffee shop. After visiting all of these, I continued on to the waterfall.

Taken with a tripod and my phone in selfie mode!

The waterfall was the best part. There is a cash fee to enter the park where you can see it, and at that park there's a playground and a snack shop. There's yet another feature, and you should guess it by now: a hike. It's a simple hike that takes you around the park to the other side of the waterfall for an alternate vantage point. There were a lot of kids running around here, so going to the other side of the waterfall was a more peaceful option. Despite the rowdiness of the kids, seeing this waterfall was definitely worth it.

Alternate angle

At this point, it was time for me to return my rental car, and I took an Uber to my next B&B, this one being directly in the Dublin city center. Having now done at least 1 hike per day since renting the car, I desperately needed a nap and a low-key night. Luckily, I had a friend I made from a previous Contiki tour who lived in Dublin, and he and I made plans to hang out after he finished work.

Dalkey's main street

He notified me when he arrived and we went to Dalkey, a more affluent area of Dublin in the south. We dined at a lovely Indian restaurant and talked the night throughout before wrapping up with a nighttime walk around the neighborhood. And we saw foxes darting all over the place! After having spent all this time by myself and chatting with new friends, it was a nice relief to see a familiar face. At the end of the night, he dropped me off and I turned in.

Driving in Dublin

I mentioned back in day 2 that I had reserved a rental car closer to the motorway. The main reason for this is because driving in the Dublin city center is ridiculous. When I first visited Ireland in 2014, I was doing the driving and we went through the city center, searching out for a parking garage our dad had recommended in Temple Bar. This one time driving through there was enough for me to say "never again!"

One of the first things my friend and I had discussed when we met up was the Dublin streets and how crazy they are. There are one way streets left and right and insane turns coming out of nowhere; it just doesn't make sense because the roads were built around the existing houses and structures rather than drafted by engineers or city planners. This was the reason why I chose to rent a car outside of the city center. 

The city is the largest in the Republic but it's not so large that you can't make it to most interesting places by foot. They also have an extensive bus system that tends to be late, and the Luas train for public transit options. Uber is available though it's paired with the taxi company, making it more convenient to grab a ride if you need one.

Ultimately, if you're planning on visiting Ireland and will be renting a car, I would highly recommend doing as I did and renting away from the Dublin city center and closer to the motorway. It'll save you some stress.

Day 7: Living up my last day in Dublin

The B&B I stayed at provided a lovely breakfast to get me through the day, though I still stopped at The Rolling Donut after taking a walk through St. Stephen's Green Shopping Centre

Interior shot

And while I was on that roll, I made my way to another donut shop, but not to buy, but to observe. An Irish site I follow on Instagram posted a video of the grand opening of Ireland's first Krispy Kreme Donuts and the mile-long line outside. I went to see it for myself and the line had since diminished, but it had since gone way down.

Jedward was here earlier

My next order of business was to go back to Trinity College to go through the library and see the Book of Kells, but they were completely sold out for the day. I moved on to Dublin Castle and took a guided tour. I learned a good deal about the history of the castle and how it's still utilized to this day when political meetings are involved. 

The next stop would be at the Guinness Storehouse. Yes, I'd been there twice before, but it is a fun experience every time, and you get at least one free pint of Guinness while you're there. I went through the storehouse and witnessed the history of the brewing process and development of the brand, through the tasting room, the hall of advertisements and the tasting room before making it to the Academy, where you pour your own pint. 

I needed to recertify

My original intent was to go through the storehouse as quickly as possible while still taking time to enjoy myself, but I wound up meeting 3 Italian tourists at the Academy. We talked for a while, and I gave them some suggestions on places to check out while they told me a little bit of their Italian history that I hadn't heard when I was in Italy last year. When we toasted with our pints of Guinness, they were impressed that I knew to tap the tabletop with my glass before taking a sip. 

While I don't regret the time I spent with them, I lost track of time and it was getting later than I had planned to be there. I said my goodbyes after trading Instagram info, then grabbed some lunch on the next level before heading up to the Gravity Bar for my next free pint of Guinness. The Gravity Bar offers the best views of the city, this day was exceptionally busy with most of the windows blocked by people enjoying their drinks. I downed my pint, took my pictures, and then headed out.

One of the best shots I could get without invading anyone's space

I made my way west to my next destination: Kilmainham Gaol, but the walk took longer than I had expected. By the time I made it, there were no tours left open except for the final tour, which would run into the final item on my agenda this day, so I had to skip it. I walked back through the Ireland Museum of Modern Art, or IMMA, gardens, and found an unexpected shortcut through this section of the city. Once again, I didn't have time to visit IMMA, so I continued on to the Luas and went back to the city center and returned to my hotel.

Crossing the Liffey

I changed quickly and went down the street to check out a French restaurant called Café en Seine for dinner. After a lovely dinner of gnocchi and an Aperol Spritz, I went around the corner for the highlight of my day: The 25th Anniversary of Riverdance playing at the Gaiety Theater!

WOOHOO!!!!!

This being the first time I'd seen any live shows in Ireland, I was particularly excited because I had never watched the full Riverdance specials on TV when they were all the rage in the late 90s; I only saw parts here and there. I was also able to experience what it was like to see an Irish show with Irish people. In all the shows I've seen in my life, I have never been to one where the crowd applauded and cheered so much. The show itself was incredible, but the reactions of the crowd were nothing short of infectious, making the experience all the more enjoyable! There was also a kiss at the beginning of the second act that just about everyone cooed over, which was hilarious.

After the show, I decided to walk around the city a little bit. Dublin is just like any city at night in that its best that you don't go out alone, but if you stick to the Grafton Street and Temple Bar regions, you are still moderately safe, so long as you're careful. I returned to The Vat House to say hello to my friend Promise, and we had a chat while I enjoyed a shot of the amazing Teeling Whiskey. 

A cool side street of Grafton

It was getting late, so I went to Murphy's Ice Cream to enjoy one last cone from them before leaving. I met an entertaining aspiring influencer there who was filming himself as he tried out the ice cream and did some decently funny rapping, but unfortunately, I can't remember his name. Then I walked through Grafton Street a little more before ending my night at The Dawson Lounge, the smallest pub in Dublin and possibly Ireland itself. 

Yes, it's blurry. I was tired by now.

Ironically, I ran into a guy who was from my area in California, but I didn't linger because it had been a long day and I was ready to retire. I returned to my hotel and finished packing for my trip back.

Leveling Up in Solo Travel

The trip back to the airport was uneventful, especially since I left so early due to understaffing at the Dublin airport. It turns out that the day I was leaving they were staffed enough so that people could breeze through at normal times, but since I have TSA PreCheck, I went through even faster. 

I truly love Ireland, and plenty has changed since my last visit in 2018. But being completely by myself in this post-Covid time has shown me how important it is to be properly prepared when you travel. Here are a few things I learned about going completely solo:

Personal health - I explained in day 2 about my air sickness that had affected me on my trip. Your health really is your first priority whenever you're traveling by yourself. Make sure you are prepared with plenty of medications for expected issues like nausea, headaches and muscle strains, and always have plenty of water.

Buy tickets in advance - prior to Covid, I could walk into just about any attraction and go in on the next opening. This is no longer the case. If you have in mind to go somewhere, buy the tickets at least 1 day in advance. Being flexible is still possible, but not if you have plans you want to stick to. 

Check the insurance - many credit card companies will cover car rental insurance, but you will need to check with them before renting your car. I learned this after I purchased the rental insurance for my car, and it was pretty expensive, as I knew it would be. 

Looking up friends - I love traveling by myself, but meeting up with my friend was a huge boost that I hadn't realized I needed. It's a completely unique experience to envelop yourself in a culture alone, but even if you aren't experiencing any loneliness, meeting up with friends in foreign countries helps to make the trip more personal. Someone there is happy to see you! If you travel with groups, I highly recommend making friends with people from other countries and visiting them so you can experience this amazing feeling.

No guides - being by yourself means that nobody is telling you about the places you're visiting. That was the main element of traveling that I missed most by this adventure: not learning much. Yes, I did take smaller tours like the Gravedigger and Dublin Castle tours, and I did learn fun tidbits about Dublin history there, but I wanted to learn more. Going forward, when I travel by myself, I will be making more time for city tours so I can understand the history better.

Laundry - other times that I have travels with groups, at least one of the hotels or lodgings we stayed in would offer laundry services. Having booked AirBNBs and local B&Bs, none of them offered laundry services. Granted, I had enough clothing for my trip, but on my last day that only clean pair of pants I had were denim, which are not fun to wear on airplanes! So I had to suck it up and wear uncomfortable pants because I didn't plan better. Oh well.

Don't necessarily upgrade your phone before you go - I upgraded my phone the week before I left, mostly so that I would have more battery power and room for pictures. When I got my rental car, it didn't have a GPS system, but had an HMDI port and was Bluetooth compatible for Google Maps. However, this was an older model rental, and the GPS system was too old to be compatible for my Maps! I was still able to use my Maps on my phone, but I had to get creative so that it would stay in one place within my eye range. And it didn't always work! So before you travel solo, if you're planning on renting a car AND upgrading your phone, maybe wait a bit on the upgrade unless your phone is on the dying side. Sometimes those older phone apps will work better with an older car system. Or bring a cell phone mount that you can attach to the fan.

Credit cards over cash - when I went to Italy last year, I saw many places that were using credit card machines in this post-Covid era. This was the same case for Ireland. In fact, there were many places there that would only accept cards. There were still plenty of places that were accepting both or cash only, but those were mostly in more rural areas, parking lots, or places like the Powerscourt Waterfall that had an entry fee. These days it's best to bring the cards, but still bring a few hundred euros just in case.

No A/C in cars - Ireland is in a temperate zone, and therefore usually doesn't have very warm summers, so having A/C isn't a need. This is a problem during heat waves. As I mentioned during the storm I encountered in County Clare, the windows were fogging up, making it difficult for me to see. I had to crack the windows despite the rain pelting down, or simply try wiping the windshield with my had. Neither option was a good one. 

Research alcohol limits - I learned this from my friend after I returned my rental car, but Ireland has a zero tolerance policy regarding drinking and driving. In California, you are allowed to have a blood alcohol level of 0.08% while driving, which is still a bit high in my opinion, but that's California for you. Out in Ireland, the limits are different, and the penalties are severe. Although I was a smart driver while I was over there, it still would have been wiser for me to know this before going. Always look up drinking policies if you plan to drive in another country!

Eight Incredible Days!

Being entirely solo this time around for 8 whole days was definitely challenging, but I enjoyed it. I may not have learned as much about the country this time around as I would have liked to, but I was able to experience the towns and people in ways I hadn't been able to before. It was incredible!

Wise words from the Dublin Airport terminal

But wait...8 days?

I only mentioned 7...

Oh yes, that's right! The 8th day I flew out, I had a 21-hour layover...In Amsterdam!

Guess what my next post will be about? Stayed tuned next time to hear about the 8th day...finally stepping out into the Netherlands and exploring a country I'd never been to before all by myself!

All pics were taken by me or by my device and not to be used. Gifs courtesy of Giphy.

Thursday, August 25, 2022

Travel Diary: Portland and Las Vegas

It's been a while, but I'm back! My new job has allowed me to do a little bit of traveling, and I was able to explore 2 areas back in February: one I'd never been to before, and one I hadn't been to in a while. I spent some time in Portland, Oregon, and then took a few days returning to Las Vegas, Nevada. It's an odd combo, but hey, that's what travel is all about!

Portland, Oregon

Portland is one of the northernmost cities in Oregon, just a few miles shy of the Washington border. Being part of the Pacific Northwest, it is a wetter city, though not nearly as rainy and snowy as Washington. It is a beautiful city with many lush forests surrounding the area, with many high places where you can see the amazing Mount Hood in the distance. Its popularity surged with the TV series Portlandia and has a reputation as a hipster city.

Things to Do

With little time to explore, only a few hours at a time, I went to a Facebook group focusing on travel and lo and behold, one of the other members of this group asked for some info on things to do in Portland.

I saved this post and did some of my own research, and decided to start with my two defaults when it comes to traveling new cities: hiking or walking trails, and Irish pubs. This led me to looking into Forest Park, a park that has dozens of trails, and Washington Park. With the weather bringing snow, Washington Park was my best bet. I found several high-incline trails, a Holocaust Memorial and a rose garden. There was also a Japanese garden, but I sadly couldn't make time to go, despite it being one of the sites highly recommended in the Facebook post.

The post also had dozens of members saying that you can't experience Portland unless you check out the food trucks. One in particular mentioned the Hawthorne Asylum, which was a courtyard that had about 20 different food trucks. The trucks alternate on a regular basis and feature a variety of menus, from local flavors to international cuisine. There is also a fire pit in the center to help stave off the chilly weather.

Korean fusion bowl and Belgian waffles. Wonderful combo, that!

Another venue that popped up prominently in the post was to check out Voodoo Donuts. There were several locations in Portland, and I visited the one downtown. They offered a wide variety of flavors, including multiple vegan types. There are other donut shops around the city worth visiting, and many independent coffee shops. Unfortunately, most of these coffee shops are closed on Mondays, which was of course was one of the days I had to really explore. 

Hibiscus flavored!

My hunt for an Irish pub also led me to breweries. Local breweries are popping up in big cities all across the nation and it's always fun to check them out, even if you're not a drinker. A good brewery will have at the very least a welcoming ambiance, and even better food if they offer a menu. I chose the Away Days Brewing Company and picked up a flight there, and a Guinness at Whelan's Irish Pub.

Now comes the other discovery that I would say in a unique experience in Portland: thrift store shopping. I had come to Portland under the impression that I would be transferred to Hawaii soon afterwards and had brought clothing for tropical weather. When it turned out we needed to stay in Portland longer, I had a serious problem in that I had almost no warm clothing!

At my first opportunity, I sought out thrift stores. There were plenty to choose from, so I opted for one near Away Days since it was only a few blocks away. Nothing could have prepared me for the clothing selection! 

One of the fun things about thrift store shops is that if you find one in a more upscale part of town, you'll find extremely good quality and name brand clothing for dirt-cheap prices. Despite my not being in an upscale area, the selection was pretty amazing. I spent probably an hour there and was constantly unloading clothing with other pieces I liked better. The fittings rooms were still closed due to Covid restrictions, but I lucked out with my selections and every one of them fit perfectly. So this city is great for the thrift stores!

Things to Consider

Portland is COLD.

It snowed several times while I was up there, and the wind chill factor made even warmer days feel like a snowstorm was afoot. If you want to make your way around the city in non-summer seasons, it's best to bring a windbreaker and to layer up.

This also brings me to my next point: transportation. Like most big cities, there's a bus system and a train system, and a heavy emphasis on bikes. This is another reason to bring the windbreaker with you in case you need to wait on public transit or take a bike. Lime and Jump scooters are prevalent here too, and they make a good means of going about the city, but if you don't have a windbreaker, it'll be a chilly ride! If that's the case, Uber may be a better choice.

Clearly this gif animation was shot in the summertime

Then there's the other issue of note: homelessness. California has a bit of a homelessness problem, and I've seen lesser issues in other US cities and aboard. But the situation in Portland far outweighed what I've seen in any other area. In my travels, I'm confident enough to make it around unfamiliar cities without feeling unsafe. Portland was the first city I've been to in a while where I felt unsafe in the daytime.

My Thoughts on this Visit

Portland is an eclectic city with lots of culture to offer, but the homelessness situation dampens that feel. You'll see beautiful architecture and city views, but unfortunately, many of them will be obstructed by tent cities and massive piles of trash. If you are a solo traveler, I advise that carry pepper spray with you just in case.

However, it's still worth a visit for its uniqueness, and don't miss out on the food trucks!

Las Vegas, Nevada

Sin City, I'm back!

I used to have family in this area, so I was brought here a few times as a child and visited again as an adult. I no longer have family there, but I was able to meet up with friends this time around and had some time to myself for exploring. If there's anything I've observed about Vegas, it's that in the span of a few years, the entire city can update and look brand new all over again.

Things to Do

Besides gambling, drinking and strip clubs?

Well, here's the thing. Vegas has many, many attractions and things to do. There are aquariums, museums, zip lines, small amusement parks, singular rides, comedy clubs, theaters, and some incredibly fine dining, mostly along the strip and near Fremont Street. However, due to Covid restrictions, many of these attractions aren't always open. If there's something you want to do beforehand, like the Fremont Street Slotzilla zip line, you need to make sure that they are selling tickets for the day that you're there.

There are also some free attractions that are worth checking out. The casino Caesars Palace has the Fall of Atlantis Show 5 days a week, there's the infamous Mirage Volcano that goes off once per hour at night, the lovely Bellagio Fountains that also have showings once per hour at night, and there's a Wildlife Habitat at the Flamingo casino that's fun for the whole family. And, of course, there's the famous Welcome to Las Vegas sign, which is worth taking 5 minutes of your trip at.

This being a major city, however, outside of the strip and Fremont is just another average US city, with the exception of there being casinos and slot machines everywhere. There are some extremely sketchy areas outside of the popular regions, but there are also many residential areas and regular city features like parks, shopping malls, and golf courses. 

The Fun Story

This is the first time I've been here when I've been able to go with friends. I wasn't able to meet them until midway through my second day there, so I did plenty of exploring, knocking out 13 miles and having lunch at another Irish pub, Rí Rá, before meeting with them. When I did meet up with them, we did some drinking and gambling at Binion's and The Golden Gate Casinos off of Fremont Street. 

Hello, Fremont Street!

One of my friends wanted to keep gambling so he stayed behind while my other friend and I went back to the Strip to grab some sushi and check out the Bellagio Fountains. Since we also wanted to see the Mirage Volcano, I timed our walk to the Fountains, which was just shy of 10 minutes. It was near 11, and that was when the last show began, so we agreed to leave the Fountains before 10:50. 

Choregraphed to Elton John's "Your Song"

The Fountains show was going on when we showed up and we both enjoyed it, but it finished at exactly 10:50. Since we had to contend with several red lights that took forever to turn green, we lost about 2 minutes and needed to speed up. So, with us being directly in front of the enormous Caesars Palace courtyard, we started running! Luckily with it being so late there was hardly anyone on the streets, so we zipped up the street and made it to the Volcano right as the show began.

Note the goose without a care in the world toward the bottom of the picture 

We must have looked pretty crazy running past Caesars Palace like that! And oddly, as someone who has asthma, I managed to make it without being short of breath! 

Things to Consider

Before booking your trip here, consider signing up for a rewards program. The two main rewards programs offered in the city are My Vegas Rewards, and Caesars Rewards. If you book your hotel or activities using your rewards card, which is offered for free, you can rack up some serious perks while you're out here! By using your card at slots, table games, restaurants, gift shops, and booking tickets, you can earn freebies for your current or next trip depending on what you do! For more information regarding available rewards programs for Vegas, check out this site.

However, if you book at a big name hotel, there will be additional deposits and resort fees that will vary depending on the location and dates. On weekdays, you can find day rates for the cheapest room as low as $25 per night before all other fees added, and on weekends the same hotel will then have rates only going as low as $250 per night before fees. Most booking websites will have a calendar available for you to find the best rates. Many will also have breakfast buffets available which will have amazing culinary choices, but they aren't always open due to current Covid restrictions.

The Bellagio in the daytime

Booking hotels away from the popular areas can be a little risky. Check out the reviews for wherever you want to stay before booking because I read numerous accounts of guests having issues with drug dealers, homeless, and prostitutes at the place they booked. It may be more expensive, but booking at a bigger name hotel, not necessarily on the Strip or Fremont Street, may be the safer option if you're traveling alone. I stayed at the Excalibur Hotel and they had 24/7 security, and the key cards had to be used in order to make the elevators work. I felt safe at this hotel, despite having noisy neighbors. 

In getting around, there isn't much in the way of public transit. There are few bus lines and shuttles, so most of the transport available is in taxis, Ubers and Lyfts, to the point where even the major hotels have designated drop-off points for these pickups. However, there are no bikes or scooters, but there are plenty of overhead walkways so that pedestrians can safely walk between casinos without having to wait on crosswalks. There is also a Monorail that links from one end of the Strip with the other, beginning at the MGM Grand and ending at the Sahara. You can purchase a day pass if you're planning to stay in this area for the day.

Walking is also an option, though the Strip is longer than it looks. The pedestrian walkways above the streets are convenient but often have homeless lingering about, and the street lights take forever to turn green, though sometimes you'll find showgirls and Elvis impersonators out there charging about $5 for pictures. I took pictures with Elvises! 

Thank ya very much!

Then there's the driving option. Many of the lots offer free self-parking, but make sure you double check before heading over as some will only have garages that charge, or valet parking. For example, if you wanted to visit the Aria casino but wanted to park for free, you could park at the Wynn or Treasure Island hotels and walk over.

Despite homeless people lingering in the pedestrian walkways, the City of Las Vegas does work to keep the issue from spreading. The Strip has much fewer homeless than I've seen in another major cities, and one of my helpful Uber drivers told me that the City does its best to keep the situation under control. Even when being transported across the city in areas not usually frequented by visitors, I didn't see as many camps or tents about. 

The casinos also have ATMs for cash gambling but if you don't want to take out large increments, you can stop by a CVS or Walgreens for cashback. And if you do happen to win at gambling and have any change in coins, the cash out machines won't allow you have it, but you can donate it to charities working toward aiding the homeless population, battling sex trafficking, and helping the environment!

Despite this little tip, do try to be careful when gambling. Gambling addiction is a real condition, so try to pace yourself if you do plan to try some gaming.

Hazards for Solo Travelers

Vegas isn't called Sin City for nothing. Prostitution, porn, drugs, excessive drinking and scams are everywhere. Vegas is also a top city for sex trafficking. If you are traveling solo, be extra aware of your surroundings and try not to drink so much because that will leave you more vulnerable.

Another way of knowing you've been targeted is if you return to your car and see a zip tie attached to your windshield wiper. If you see this, DO NOT get into your car. Find security and report it right away. A zip tie on the windshield wiper indicates that this car has been marked and someone is waiting to snatch you. Or if you are walking through a parking lot or garage and see one on another car, report it right away. 

It may seem like a bit of a drag, but just because there's much unique fun to be had out in Vegas, it can be extremely unsafe for the solo traveler. For more information on ways to stay safe, feel free to check out this link.

My Thoughts on the Visit

I enjoy coming to Vegas, it's a fun place to travel to. However, it's more fun to come to with other people. Despite the hazards, this city may be a little safer when it comes to solo travel, but having your friends with you makes the experience more memorable. 

And truthfully? Traveling with friends can also help you stay out of trouble. 

So, What's Next?

Both cities visited had their pros and cons, but both were worth checking out. I say that both cities are worth visiting for both Americans and visitors from other countries. Have fun, but proceed with caution, especially with Vegas.

So since I haven't had time to blog over the last few months, there are several upcoming blogs on the horizon. I've been working in Hawaii, but I'm also doing more traveling and will be blogging about those experiences as well. I'm going to do my best with what little time I do have and work on several posts at a time. Depending on how things pan out, the next one will be posted when whichever one I'm working on is finished first. It's vague, I know. 

Anyways, thank you for tuning in, and keep your eyes out for that next post!

Pictures taken by me or with my device. Gifs courtesy of Giphy.

Sunday, February 13, 2022

Travel Romance: Is it Worth It?

Ironically, this is just in time for Valentine's Day. I did not plan this.

Every person who has traveled and doesn't have a significant other back home has at least considered the possibility of pursuing a romance with a foreigner. 

No, not THAT Foreigner!

Let me tell you right off the bat that whatever expectations you may have from rom-coms and the like should be completely disregarded. Think less like Leap Year and more along the lines of Taken as being more likely to happen. If you want to use a movie as a reference that is markedly realistic, please check out Before Sunrise. This 90s film starring Ethan Hawke and Julie Delpy focuses on an American man and a French woman meeting on a train to Vienna who decide to spend the remainder of his time in Europe together before his flight leaves in the morning.


Before we continue, I would like to state what parts of travel, holiday, or vacation "romance" I am referring to. I will be focusing on two aspects only: romance while traveling solo, and romance while traveling within a group. I will not be covering Tinder usage or trying to land a one-night stand. 

This post will also be covering safety and possible hazards in pursuing a romance while traveling. It may be a bit of a downer, but if we're being honest, this can be an extremely risky action to take. You don't want to find yourself in a Taken situation. 


I am happy to report that the limited experiences I have had were situations where I was in no danger, but that doesn't make me the rule. Every traveler, regardless of gender, should take any and all precautions before making the choice to pursue this action.

Solo Travel Romance

Picture this: you're an excited traveler all by yourself in one of the most romantic cities in the world. You've been in the country for only a few hours, you've checked in to your hotel, you've freshened up and look cute, and you're ready to take on the town for adventure. Instead of taking public transportation to your destination, you choose to stretch your legs and walk after having been cooped up in an airplane for hours.

And then, you make eye contact with a handsome local.


Sounds like the start of a romance book or movie, right? Well, the scene may have been embellished a little, but my personal experience was similar to this, and worked out to how a more ideal situation would draw out. And we'll also discuss what could have gone wrong. 

The Meeting

You may not meet someone right away. In fact, you may not meet anyone at all, and that's ok. But when you do meet someone and you feel attraction or a connection, the first thing you need to do is trust your gut. Your gut instinct is never wrong, and even if it is an exciting sensation to see a potential romance on the horizon, do not lose your head! Be excited but listen to your gut. If anything at all seems off, politely excuse yourself and find a means of putting distance between you and this person.


In my scenario, I was 2 hours in Rome, had just left my hotel and wasn't looking too particularly cute (but cute enough), but I had a destination in mind: the Termini. I was walking down somewhat familiar streets from my last visit, when I saw a young man wandering around by himself, looking a little lost. I kept moving, but soon, he came up to me asking for help. He was a traveler like me, and he spoke decent English. He needed some help because he had never been to Rome before and would be meeting with friends later.

What Went Right vs. What Could Have Gone Wrong

Having been to the Termini several times before, I told him I could take him there. My intent was to find a Hop-On-Hop-Off bus tour by myself. I also wanted to bring him there in case my gut instinct was wrong. I decided to just go with it, and here are the steps I took to ensure my safety.

Step One: Go Somewhere with Lots of People

I was a little nervous, but my gut instinct was telling me that this guy was harmless. We introduced ourselves, then I explained that I wasn't from Rome either but had been here before, and where I was going. He asked if he could come along.

Important: do NOT tell anyone where you're staying until more familiarity has been established.


Here's a little something to consider as well

Bringing this person to a heavily populated place will provide you with plenty of witnesses should they try to take advantage of you. It's also easier to escape from one person when there are more people around, and there is more likely to be security personnel.

Once we made it to the Termini, I took his phone number and added him on Messenger, but I didn't give him my number, nor did I add him on Facebook. He was fine with this arrangement, and I planned to move on, but he had asked me to wait till he spoke with the friends he was meeting and gave them a call.

Step Two: Establish that you have friends coming

Now, having brought this guy at the Termini, I indicated that I was planning to move on. He asked me if I had friends, and I told him the truth that yes, I did have friends, but I didn't tell him that they were friends I hadn't met yet because my Contiki tour hadn't begun. He told me that he had reached his friends, but they had gone to the beach, and one of them would be back around 2. Since his friends would be back before my group was supposed to meet, he asked if he could tag along with me.

I checked my gut again and there were still no alarms going off, so I said yes, he could join me. 

As stated above, I didn't tell him that I hadn't met my friends formally yet. I am not the type of person to advocate for lying, but some situations require that you do not tell the truth. If you're the religious type, please refer to a character from the Bible named Rahab who lied to keep Hebrew spies safe. Because of her actions, she was included in the line of Christ, so if she can lie and receive that kind of honor, then you can lie to save your own life if you have to (Joshua 6, Matthew 1:5)!


When traveling and you meet someone, one of the first things they will do is ask if you are alone. Even if you are alone, LIE. Tell them you are waiting on friends. This will also give you an out if you find that you need a quick exit. If you have the opportunity and the cell phone plan, find a way to reach out to a friend or family member and ask them to be on standby if you need them to be.

Step Three: Take a picture of the person

After this young man and I had spent about 45 minutes together, I had offered to take a picture of him at one of the locations we were checking. He did hesitate a little and said that he wasn't very photogenic. When I asked again later, he said sure. I took a few more pictures of him during our time together, and you know what? He wasn't kidding. He was a fairly attractive guy, but he didn't take pictures well. It happens.

This step can be executed as early as you want, but this is a move that is better done in a smart manner. Making this offer can held reveal bad intentions early on. If need be you can play the cute one and say you want a picture to best remember them by because flattery can work in your favor. 

Red flag: the person becomes defensive and says that they don't take pictures.

If the person you have met doesn't want to take a picture, that's fine. But if they are vehemently against you taking one for any reason, consider this your cue to make a swift exit. This is a sign that this person most likely has unsavory intentions.


Yellow flag: the person hesitates and says they're not entirely comfortable.

This is a yellow flag because some people aren't comfortable taking pictures, whether for personal, religious, or even vanity purposes. The reason may be legit, so accept this excuse the first time, then try again when they're feeling a little more comfortable. If they give you one of the excuses above, pay attention to your gut. However, if they change their mind and allow you to take one, that's usually (key word) a green flag. I would still advise sending that picture to a trusted friend or family member ASAP to be safe.

Green flag: sure!

Most of the time, an emphatic agreement is an indicator that the person doesn't have bad motives. This would usually imply that the person is genuinely interested in you and wants to remember you, but as stated before, still send a picture of this person to a contact as soon as possible.


Step Four: Keep to streets or areas where there are lots of people around

The young man and I explored the area around the Termini and checked out a church before exploring the side streets. We chatted while taking pictures of the sights, discussing our plans in the country, and generally getting to know each other. I wasn't sure where we were headed, but as long as there were people around, I was more at ease. My gut still wasn't going off.

It is vitally important that despite your gut giving you the go-ahead that you keep your safety at the forefront. If you opt to stay outside, keep to busy streets where there are people milling along the sidewalks or have a good number of cars and other vehicles. This should discourage bad behavior when there are more witnesses about. And stay as close to the buildings as possible, as someone can be snatched from the edge of the street into a car or van.

If you want to go to any venues, try to go for museums or churches first. These are both areas where being quiet is advised, so if the person tries anything sleazy with you, you can make a lot of noise and someone will come by to tell you to keep it down. Plus, churches are usually a deterrent for people with bad intentions!


Restaurants are a good backup plan as you will have waiters and servers coming by often. I would be wary of bars and clubs because they can be tourist traps with people on the lookout for easy marks. For all you know, this person you have met may be leading you someplace like that on purpose. To further keep your safety in check, skip the bar and find somewhere else. If they are insistent on taking you to some specific venue and won't take no for an answer, make your escape.

Step Five: Leave them wanting more

If everything has gone well by this point, it still may be a long con. Do not silence your gut if it starts trying to warn you after a long period of being quiet. The more time spent with this person may lower the chances of that happening, but this early on, it's probably still not zero. 

After spending a few hours together, find a reason to part. This is not to ghost or scare them away, but to check on their intentions. This person could be someone nice who just wanted to be friendly with someone from another country instead of a prospective romance. By parting, you can also indicate to them how important your time is and that if you want to make them a potential priority, you are the one calling those shots.


When the person agrees to this, it is yet again another green flag. You shouldn't message or call them back right away because you could come off as too eager, which could repel them, or worse, make you look like an easy mark. Wait an hour or a few before reaching out to them. And remember, don't tell them where you're staying. 

In the event the person reaches out to you first, prioritize your agenda. If you do want to make time for this person and are unable to at the moment, communicate this to them. When they understand and try to work with your agenda, that's usually an indicator of the start of a friendship or more. 

It's when the person seems a little too eager to meet you again that you can enter a yellow flag area. The person may just be lonely and not want to be by themselves in a strange land, which is a perfectly acceptable excuse. Or this could be a setup. Pay attention to how they respond to your plans and listen to your gut. Loneliness can lead to guilting, so take any sign of guilting as a red flag. You don't need that on your trip.


The conclusion of my story is that the young man and I eventually parted ways after one of his friends was able to pick him up. She was a cool person, and we chatted a bit and shared some hugs before we all moved on. It wasn't long though before he was reaching out to me and asking me if we could hang out again. I explained to him that I had met up with my friends and that we would be out on the town that night before leaving in the morning. I informed him I would be back in Rome later and we might be able to meet up then.

We did correspond a few other times, but he didn't seem to grasp the concept that I had left Rome because he kept asking me if we could meet up. I finally was back in Rome and let him know when I was free, but he ironically wasn't. My verdict was that this guy got a little excited about a possible holiday romance, but I wasn't interested in that. He was nice, but a little too eager. 

One of the nice things about this type of scenario though is that when you return home, you no longer have the ability to see the people you're not interested in. This guy and I had a nice afternoon together, and I wished him well. Overall, I am extremely fortunate that I was never in any danger.

The Bottom Line

Being alone in a foreign country is an exciting but sometimes hazardous experience, and inexperience can often land you in difficult situations. Your gut instinct is your best defense, so don't question it if it starts trying to warn you. Having a romance with a stranger when you're traveling alone may seem ideal, but it can also put you at an extreme disadvantage if you aren't careful.

In Before Sunrise, the characters of Jesse and Celine have a natural meeting aboard a train and spend time getting to know one another for the duration of their trip before he invites her to join him in Vienna. This film, more realistic than all others, shows the development of chemistry between two people in a way that is not only natural, but healthy. There's no coercion and no red flags. It is also the single example for a best-case scenario when traveling.


Just don't forget that while realistic, Before Sunrise is a work of fiction. Don't be swept away by Hollywood ideals.

Group Travel Romance

This method may be safer but can be more complicated. The upside to group travel romance is that you are around friends at this point who can offer support or advice with the person you're interested in. You are also around this person more often and can take advantage of the time you have together to hopefully develop a steady relationship. 

Harsh Realities

Still, just because you're traveling in the same group doesn't always mean that things will work out with the person you're interested in. Here are several things to consider when choosing to pursue someone in your group:

They may not be interested in you, or may be interested in someone else

This is the most likely issue you will come across in group travel romance. That smoking hot guy or gal from a different country, or maybe even your own country, that you would like to get to know better is not guaranteed to return your interest. It is markedly important that you try to establish that you have mutual interest. If they do not, then move on. 


The inability to give up your interest if this person is already taken or has their eye on someone else, or even is happy being single will be noticeable by others in your group. You may not care how you come off, but an unrequited love with someone you barely know is not worth pining over. You deserve better. Especially if they want to be with someone else in your group. Avoiding drama will make you the bigger person in the long run.

They may be involved with someone else back home

Some people aren't comfortable being open about their love life. The person you're interested in may not give you a reason as to why they aren't interested back, and that reason could be that they are already in a relationship. It's best to not press the issue if this person won't disclose that they prefer to keep their relationship status to themselves.

They may be dishonest about being single

One of the best things about traveling with a group is that nobody knows you beforehand. However, there are some people who revel in that mindset and will tell you they're single when they have someone waiting for them at home. Or several. Yes, this does happen when traveling, and they can seriously hurt you. 


Travel romance may be an amazing experience, but it can still blindside you if you aren't careful. Don't allow yourself to fall too hard for this person, because you must face the fact that you barely know them. Communication is the best key, but even the smoothest liars can beat that.

They may have a different idea of what they want for a travel romance

You may be interested in a short-term romance, and they may want something that could potentially lead to a longer commitment. Or they may only be looking for a one-night stand. This may potentially be demoralizing if neither of you are clear on what your motivation is. Once again, be clear on what it is you want from that person. If your goals don't add up, then it's best to stick to your guns and move on. If the person doesn't respect you for your choices, then you will have dodged a bullet.


They may be from a country or culture that has different values that may conflict with yours

Cultures across the world often have different dating practices. You may be wanting to be involved with someone for the duration of your trip, but that person may have an entirely different idea of what is comfortable or even appropriate for their values. You may come across someone who has chosen to be celibate and is happy being that way or prefers to wait until marriage before becoming physical.

You should never try to force your different ideals on someone who has either been raised with a certain type of values or has made that personal choice for themselves.


If their choices conflict with your needs, then it's best to stay friends them instead.

Pursing a Healthy Travel Romance

I may have sounded cynical up to this point, but the truth is that holiday romance can be more complicated than it seems. One of the simple truths is that the time you have with this person is currently limited. If it is a goal of yours to become involved with someone on your trip, then it's best to go in with the right mindset.


I am someone who has had a variety of experiences on trips, but the drama I have witnessed far outweighs what I have gone through. Drama is not something you want to incite in a group setting because it will never end well for any party. Here's some tips on how to avoid drama when pursuing a travel romance in a group setting.

Be ready for anything

Whether you're determined to find someone to get involved with, or you become interested in someone after having spent a few days with them, you should be ready for their answer to be no. Be hopeful that something can blossom with this person, but also be prepared that they won't reciprocate. Never expect that such a thing will be happening. Accept the reality that nothing will happen and you won't be as disappointed.


Remember, you are traveling. You are on an adventure. To allow a person that you may only meet once in your life to ruin your trip is silly. The worst that person can say is that they're not interested. If they don't see your worth, then move on and continue having a good time. It's their loss, not yours!

Communicate

As stated above, your expectations for a holiday romance may be vastly different. Make sure that if this person returns your interest and wants to get involved with you that you are on the same page. If you only want to be involved for the duration of the trip, say so. If you want a relationship that will endure past your trip, let that person know.


Nothing will wreck your potential relationship faster than miscommunication, especially if the person you want to be with is from another country. You don't want to be presumptuous, and you don't want that person to be confused if they do something they didn't realize was not okay.

Know when to walk away

You may do everything right, but sometimes that still means that things won't work out. Your romance may be brief and fizzle out before the trip ends. It's sad, but it happens. Don't drag out a romance that has already burnt out and communicate to this person that it's time to end things. 


Or maybe things didn't quite reach romance level. You had some fun together, but it turned out the other person, while interested at first, changed their mind for some reason, or you're the one who came to that conclusion. There's nothing wrong with acknowledging that things didn't work out for whatever reason. Be open and honest and do your best to make sure that neither of you gets hurt.

Talk to others in your group

Believe it or not, sometimes admitting that you're interested in someone within your group will become a bonding experience between yourself and your new traveling friends! If you're becoming good friends with a roommate, or a clique of people, let them in on your little crush and see how they react. When traveling, it's usually prudent to allow for at least one other person in on what's happening. And, it's also fun to be in on your friends' crushes too!


By being open with your friends, they can provide you with feedback, especially if you're newer to a group and the person or people you're now friends with have traveled with this other person longer and know them better. These people will often know if they're single or not, or if someone else is interested in them. Or better, they may love the idea of the two of you hooking up and start shipping the two of you!

On the other hand, they may also be aware that you pursuing this person is not the best idea. They can be honest in letting you know that your personality clashes with the person you're interested in. In my experience, these friends are usually right. And truthfully, you don't want to waste time pursuing who's not a good match.

Then there's the difficult scenario: you and another person (or sometimes, persons!) are interested in the same guy or gal. 


This is a situation that should be determined by the person who is being pursued. Who do they want? They may not even want any of you! My best advice here would be to test the waters with this person to see if there's a connection. If there is, communicate with the other one who's interested in them and try to explain that you've clicked. 

Just be tactical about it.

If it turns out the person you're pursuing wants the other one, be the bigger person and step back. Nobody who isn't interested in you is worth wasting time on your vacation.

Going forward, remember only this: you have most likely saved a good amount of money or taken some much needed time away from your job and responsibilities to be where you're currently at. A failed attempt at romance is not the end of the world. Continue having a good time without them. You are here for yourself, and even if you're hurt by this person's actions or even inactions, it's not worth ruining your trip.

A Glimpse of What Worked

My post about the best experiences I had while traveling included the one where I was kissed by a young man in Paris.

Without going into any major details, what transpired between us was not something that I had planned. I had undergone a civil breakup several months prior to that trip and wasn't in the mood to pursue anything. Even when I met this guy there were no sparks whatsoever. I was introduced to him, he was introduced to me and everyone else in our newbie group, and then the rest of his group followed with their introductions. It was nearly the end of the trip before anything began to develop between us.


What did happen over those few days after we met was that he and I somehow found ourselves constantly running into each other at times when we were both separated from our group. We didn't actively seek each other out. And we became friends first, which did eventually lead to something more the day that kiss happened. In the end, we parted as friends, which I fully believe was the appropriate way to end things. 

Sometimes attraction simply blossoms when you least expect it. As long as the two of you communicate and stay on the same page, a healthy experience or long-term relationship can happen! 

If you want an idea of how things progressed between the two of us, I'll refer again to Before Sunrise. While definitely not following the same plot, beats, or events, the conversations between Jesse and Celine were very reminiscent of the ones I had with my young man as we explored Paris instead of Vienna. And the content was more of a Hallmark movie.


Ultimately, is it worth it?

Well, there are plenty of people out there who found their partner or soulmate by traveling. It is something that, under the right circumstances, can work out in a safe and healthy manner. But being out there in the world by yourself does come with many risks that do need addressing. 

The two things to remember when deciding to pursue a travel romance under any condition is to listen to your gut and know if and when to walk away from that idea or that person. I have said it many times in this post, and I'll say it again: it's not worth it to allow a failed attempt at romance ruin your trip.

To conclude, I would say it is at least worth trying it once in your travels, provided that the situation is fitting. Whether or not it's something you would like to pursue throughout your travels is dependent on you. Use your best judgment, and don't allow yourself to be swept away by romantic ideals.


As stated in my last post, my new job will be more time consuming, so I won't be able to post as often as I'd like to. So, my next post is still currently being decided, but you should hopefully see it sooner rather than later!

Until then, stay safe, and be prepared for your next adventure!

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